You get to the point where you get tired of being the only one trying to fix things, it’s not giving up, it’s realizing you had enough. Joseph faced many satanic attacks in his lifetime, but in the end he could speak with confidence of two opposing purposes behind the same events: “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good” (Genesis 50:20). You may not see the forest for the trees when it comes to forgiveness, but there are valuable reasons why you should consider forgiveness as one of the options related to your anger, sadness, or other emotions tied to your situation. Hard to believe, as no one actually wants to be hurt but it's true. save hide report. 2. Feb. 11, 2015. Letting someone know that they have hurt you may not be easy. The Bible says in Psalm 119:71: "It was the best thing that could have happened to me for it taught me to pay attention to your laws." .] 6 Bible Verses to Help Forgive Someone Who Hurt You Lean on God to guide you in the process of forgiveness February 12th, 2015 Sarah Ortiz Bible Blog. Depending on God is one of those things. Originally posted by mactoons. But forgiveness doesn’t mean you need to keep that person in your life. We all face suffering in some way, shape or form. You can forgive someone for cheating. Sometimes God removes someone from your life = Fool me Once Shame On you, Fool me again Shame on me. Lord know’s she doesn’t deserve another victory. Someday, you may run into someone who has just been through what you have been through who needs a friend and someone to talk to and you will have been there. . If someone hurts you, you can either love them and stay or you can choose to leave them and love yourself. God has a great future planned for you and He can’t give it to you with dysfunctional people around you messing it up. Does God allow suffering? Always remember….forgiveness is for you more than the other person. Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. The truth is, some things we only learn through pain. But why does God allow suffering? Muhammad Ali “ The heart was made to be broken. These are things that I had to do in my own life to overcome church hurt. In the words of J. Cole What a loving god we have, allowing someone to hurt you to teach you a lesson... 8 comments. If you never had a problem, you'd never know God could solve it. Please help me. In short, how do you let go of past hurts and move on? In contrast, God’s design in allowing certain satanic attacks is always good; God loves His children (1 John 4:16). People will make mistakes and hurt your heart deeply, but I want to offer you this truth: “God didn’t bring you this far to leave you.” He has a plan greater than we will ever know. Sometimes a very long time. Oscar Wilde “ The pain of yesterday is the strength of today. Each of these three “wills” is the will of God. By Sophia Wu. However, when someone has hurt us, we need the Holy Spirit’s power to respond in kindness. Not only was I hurt, I was humiliated. Romans 12:19 ESV / 12 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful. First, pray. You just don't let yourself believe it will happen to you. Below I share how to forgive someone who has hurt you in 15 steps: Step 1: Move On to the Next Act. “There’s only so many times you can allow someone to let you down before you will no longer tolerate being disappointed. 28. You might say a simple prayer like this: God I admit I can’t forgive (insert name) with my own power. If you are around people for very long, you will end up hurt by someone. It does mean that you try to give them a clean slate and truly let go and let God handle the pain you feel. And if it doesn’t hurt, it probably should. Why doesn't He provide any peace, comfort, strength, etc for these people? It doesn’t mean that you open the doors to your life and give them the key. It may hurt, but you also have to realize that it is the best thing that you can do. For a time, I was perpetually angry. It’s hurting again. If there is someone who continues to hurt you and refuses to stop then you must in some way find a way to distance yourself from that person or at least disarm them. 1 decade ago. “You have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.” – Candace Bushnell. It’s so hard when someone hurts us. Your life is like a play with several acts. If you do that, you’re only allowing the person who intentionally hurt you to win. He is not only the doctor who mends it, but also the father who wipes away the tears.” – Criss Jami You have much more to gain than you do to lose.] Paulo Coelho “ Do not suppress it - that would hurt you inside. 29. Don’t allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Instead, choose to utilize this painful situation to be a better version of yourself. Your past patterns of dealing with being hurt are not those you want to continue. “Listen to God with a broken heart. You will understand them and it will certainly help. Take a look at these reasons why you may want to forgive someone who hurt you: When things go wrong between two people, something has got to give. No one can hurt you unless you let them. Oh, Melta! 1. 3. But when you’re able to allow God to change your heart, it is so completely freeing. I write on the devotional life, Bible lands, understanding the Bible, and resources I have found helpful on these topics. But sometimes it’s just not that simple. Grieving is normal and you need to allow yourself the necessary amount of time to feel your emotions. If God says it, it’s true. How could God let Christians hurt to the point of suicide? In other words, He allows people to violate His moral will, and so people lie and steal. Still, as the all-powerful Creator God, nothing can happen in this universe without God allowing it to happen. Same with fighters: some die, some get hurt, some go on. I am by no means an expert at dealing with hurt in the church, but I have experienced hurt in the church. Let’s find out… Blaming others for our hurt is what most of us start off doing. If someone has recently hurt you, you’ll know just how painful and arduous the process of recovery can be. When we choose to pray for the person, we start to see them how God sees them and allows us to begin healing. 66. On Nov. 21, 1980, when the MGM Grand Hotel in Las Vegas burned, survivors were brought into the Convention Center, where our Crusade meetings were being held. Every time this person called, I had a few choice words. “[. I’m not saying you have to be besties, but forgiveness is key. “It is impossible for God to lie” (He 6:18). “At some point, you gotta let go, and sit still, and allow contentment to come to you.”- Elizabeth Gilbert. But forgiving someone doesn’t mean you allow them a free passage back into your heart. That’s easy to do in our own strength. 65. God, who cannot lie, promised long ages ago” (Ti 1:2). “The Glory of Israel will not lie or change His mind” (1 Sa 15:29). God did not cause suffering. I want to share with you how I believe God wants you to respond when hurt happens. Archived. share. God allows pain to teach you to depend on him. Waiting for you is like waiting for rain in a drought -useless and disappointing. These are the people who will either teach us important lessons about life or about ourselves. Hearts weren’t built to be borrowed. [When you love someone, it may feel like you're giving away a part of yourself, but really you're simply allowing that part of yourself to go out into the world and grow stronger. Help me to understand how much you have forgiven me, so I can forgive the person who has hurt me. 35 Bible Verses about Letting People Continue To Hurt You. Lmao. “If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.” – Shannon L. Alder. It takes time. If you can come in and out of romance without pain or remorse, something sounds out of sync. Believe it or not, there are ways to deal with people who have hurt you. The pain cut deep. 0 1. unstr810d. So what do we pray? God won’t lie; it’s impossible. An old Tank friend came through and poured his heart out: Dear Glenn, Why would God let Christians get to the point where they commit suicide? I don’t know what you have been through in your life, but I know this: God is faithful. Take it to the bank: “ God is not a man, that He should lie” (Nu 23:19). Even if you know how to let go of someone you love and follow all the steps, don’t expect to feel better immediately. 67. Why you click with some people more than others or why you suddenly feel connected to a stranger. God is never going to tell a lie and hurt you. Through this I think we must be honest with God and tell him that we are struggling not to hate the other person - we need help with that. a great affirmation, and reassurance for me today in choosing a transparent lifestyle of love and sharing our dreams with the world. Here are 5 Things To Do When People Hurt You… In addition, it is the will of God to allow sickness, tragedy, natural disasters, etc., to occur. 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